Divorce is a life-changing event that affects everyone connected to the divorcing parties. For some reason, parents of adult children tend to think their children will fare better than younger children will, but this is not the case.
A parental divorce will still be very impactful for adults. By considering a few things ahead of time, parents can prepare their adult children and help them through the process.
Utilizing mediation allows parties to stay in control of the process. It can also help to reduce costs, which allows both parties to walk away with more. The mediation process, in large part, allows two parties to work together to reach a solution. This can be good practice, seeing as even with older children there are still times, such as holidays, where it would be beneficial for you and your ex-spouse to be cordial for the sake of the children.
Do not lean on them
Parents of adult children may choose to overshare details of the divorce and lean on their children for emotional support. However, even at an older age, divorce is still hurtful for adult children, and they have their own emotions to sort out. You should also assure your children that they are not responsible for the divorce or it occurring later in your lives.
You need support
Though it may not be the best choice to lean on your children, you do still need support. Find friends or support groups that can help you through the process and support you as you get older. Also, ensure your financial security. Having to care for two aging parents separately can be a daunting and, sometimes, impossible task for many parties.
Even though your children may be grown, you are still a parent. As such, you should put their needs first. The process will not likely be easy for any of you; however, working together in the best interest of your children may end up benefiting everyone in the long-run.